Priorities

Priority #1 = God God

1. Matthew 6:33 — Seek God First

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
— Matthew 6:33 (KJV)

Application: Before we prioritize our spouse, children, career, finances, or personal desires, we are called to prioritize God and His kingdom.

 

2. Deuteronomy 6:5 — Love God Wholeheartedly

“And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”
— Deuteronomy 6:5 (KJV)

Application: God doesn’t ask for a small portion of our hearts. Our relationship with Him should influence how we love our spouse and lead our family.

 

3. Proverbs 3:5–6 — Trust God With Your Direction

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
— Proverbs 3:5–6 (KJV)

Application: A Christ-centered marriage doesn’t depend solely on what we think is best. We invite God into our decisions, conflicts, finances, parenting, and future.

 

4. Psalm 127:1 — God Must Build the House

“Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it…”
— Psalm 127:1 (KJV)

Application: We can work hard at our marriage, but ultimately we need God to be the builder of our home.

Key statement:

“We don’t just want God to bless our marriage; we NEED God to BUILD our marriage.”

 

5. Joshua 24:15 — Choose Whom Your Family Will Serve

“…choose you this day whom ye will serve… but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
— Joshua 24:15 (KJV)

Application: Putting God first isn’t merely an individual decision. Couples can make a shared commitment that their home will be centered around serving the Lord.

 

6. Colossians 3:17 — Let Everything Point Back to Christ

“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus…”
— Colossians 3:17 (KJV)

Application: Marriage isn’t separate from our faith. How we communicate, forgive, serve, make decisions, and love each other should reflect Christ.

 

7. John 15:5 — We Need Christ

“…for without me ye can do nothing.”
— John 15:5 (KJV)

Application: We cannot consistently love sacrificially, forgive generously, and serve selflessly through our own strength. We need Christ.

 

8. Proverbs 16:3 — Commit Your Plans to God

“Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.”
— Proverbs 16:3 (KJV)

Application: Couples can intentionally commit their marriage, family, plans, and future to God.

* Marriage isn't designed to work best with two people trying to make each other happy. It's designed to work with two people pursuing... God

* God shouldn't simply be part of your marriage. He should be the CENTER of it.

Questions:

  • Are we praying together?
  • Are we attending church together?
  • Are we reading God's Word?
  • Are we seeking God's direction when making major decisions?
  • Is our marriage pointing people toward Jesus?

Priority #2 = Your Spouse

* Choose Each Other

Ephesians 5:25 — “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”

Marriage means saying, “You matter.” Not just with words – but with:

  • Time
  • Attention
  • Sacrifice
  • Affection

* Don't Become ROOMMATES

Key Thought:

Don't let the person you worked hardest to win become the person you work Least to keep.

God first. Then choose your spouse – again and again.

Priority #3 = Your Children

* Children are important, but the shouldn't Replace your marriage.

* We need to love our children without losing our marriage.

* One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is to let them see Mom and Dad love each other.

* A healthy marriage creates security for children.

Questions:

  • Have our children accidentally become the center of our marriage?
  • Do we make time for each other even when the kids are busy?
  • What do our children see when they watch Mom and Dad interact?
  • Are we teaching our children what a healthy Christian marriage looks like?
  • What is one thing we could start doing to intentionally protect our marriage?

Key Thought:  Don’t spend 25 years raising your children while neglecting the person you’re supposed to spend the rest of your life with.

 

Priority #4 = Everything Else

Don’t let the urgent things of life crowd out the things that matter most.

* Make God the center of your marriage.

* Make time for your Spouse .

* Make time for your Children .

* Trust God with everything else.

Check Engine Light PNG Photo

Marriage Check Engine Light

  • We don't talk anymore.
  • We're always exhausted.
  • Everything becomes an argument.
  • We spend more time on our phones than with each other.
  • We never pray together.
  • We don't go on dates anymore.
  • We live like roommates.
  • We're constantly putting the kids first.
  • We stopped laughing together.

*Don't wait until your marriage breaks down to start working on it.

Conclusion:

Marriage isn’t about finding someone who completes you. It’s about two imperfect people who choose, every day, to love, forgive, serve and pursue God together.”

Ecclesiastes 4:12  – “…and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Husband + Wife + God = A marriage that can withstand the storms.